A reflection on Matthew 22:34-40 for the 30th Sunday in Ordinary Time Year A.
When Jesus says to love my neighbor as myself, I usually hear the first half. That is the part with action: make a call, bring a meal, listen when I would rather give advice. It is easy to overlook the words “as yourself”.
I know how differently I can speak to a friend and to myself. If a friend forgot an appointment, I would assume she had a busy week. I would help her figure out what to do next. When I forget something, I can replay the mistake over and over in my head and call myself careless. I would never think that was a kind way to help a friend improve, but I do it to myself.
Jesus’ command asks me to look at both relationships. Loving my neighbor takes attention, honesty, and patience. Loving myself may take the same things. I can admit a mistake without turning one bad moment into a verdict on my character. I should also notice when I need rest, even if there is still work I could do.
There is another question to think about here. If I am quick to excuse myself, am I really being loving? Jesus does not ask me to ignore my faults. A friend who loves me may tell me a hard truth and stay beside me while I face it. I can learn to do that for myself, too.
Jesus names love of God first, then says love of neighbor is like it. I do not have to earn God’s love by being endlessly useful or by getting everything right. Remembering that may help me receive his mercy and offer it with more freedom. I want to speak to the people around me with care. I am learning that I belong among the people who need that care.
Reflection questions:
- What would I say to a friend who made a mistake I am holding against myself?
- Where do I need honest correction, and where do I need patience?
- How might receiving God’s mercy change the way I treat someone else this week?
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