A reflection on Luke 11:42-46 for Wednesday of the 28th Week in Ordinary Time.
I am happy to help with parish events, but that turns more negative when everyone gets thanked but me. I tell myself it was an oversight. I also list all of the names that were mentioned. For someone who claims to be getting forgetful with age, I still have a pretty good memory for these sorts of things.
Jesus criticizes the Pharisees for loving the seats of honor and the greetings they receive. I like to hear this as a warning for people with important titles. But I know the warm feeling of being recognized. I like to be useful. Being seen as useful might be even more important in my mind.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a thank-you. People deserve appreciation, especially those whose work regularly goes unnoticed. Women are very familiar with serving quietly while someone else gets the credit. Jesus’ words make me think. Has appreciation become the condition for my generosity? Am I resentful? Next time I am asked, do I try to prove a point and respond that I am terribly busy?
Jesus also speaks about forgetting justice and the love of God. Maybe I need a new focus. While I am counting thanks, I might not notice the woman still washing dishes after everyone has left. Another pair of hands to help her would probably be more appreciated than a mention in the bulletin.
My motives will probably always be mixed. Many of us crave affirmation. But I can care about the work and still enjoy being thanked. The next time I feel overlooked, I need to pause before letting that feeling decide whether I help again. I might even thank someone else since I know how much it can mean.
Prayer
Lord Jesus, help me serve with a willing heart. When I feel overlooked, keep resentment from making my choices. Teach me to notice and appreciate the work of others. Amen.